Unmarried women very often look in the direction of married men and sigh sadly: “Someone is very lucky, it’s a pity that I’m not.” But they don’t think at all that the man they liked is not ideal by nature, but to a greater extent this is the result of the work of the woman who is next to him.
So, if you are single, or a contender for your hand and heart does not at all look like a prince from a fairy tale, take the situation into your own hands. You can create an ideal man with your own hands from any “improvised material”.
Each woman has her own secrets: cunning, support, manifestations of love, wisdom, delicious food and beautiful lace underwear. From this article you can find out the most popular and win-win methods used by women around the world.
Below are 10 tips for raising an ideal husband.
10. Show him who is the boss in the house
This method will work effectively if you recently put on each other's rings and danced under the Mendelssohn's waltz. If you have been living together for 10 or 20 years, changing a man will not be easy, he is simply used to a certain state of affairs.
So from the first days of marriage, show your beloved who is the boss in the house. Of course it's him! And this means that every month he must bring home a mammoth carcass (or at least a salary) and solve all arising domestic problems.
Your mission is to provide comfort, to prepare delicious food, so do not rush your chest into the embrasure if the crane suddenly leaks or the vacuum cleaner fails. Otherwise, you will have to drag the whole family on your shoulders until the end of your life.
9. Talk to your husband
An adult and experienced woman understands that a man will not hear even half of what she said. If yesterday's bride is young and does not understand anything in male psychology, she should be prepared for the fact that her husband will not always listen carefully.
This does not mean that you do not need to talk. On the contrary, a calm and friendly tone will do the trick. The man feels comfortable and cozy, you can establish contact with your loved one.
Over time, you will understand that the moment for conversation should be chosen very carefully. Most men after a hard day's work need rest, not long conversations. Let him come to his senses, and only then tell your news.
8. Find your leverage
To control a man, you need to understand what your actions lead him to wild delight. For someone, sex is important; for someone, delicious food or compliments.
Encourage your husband, do what he likes. He will want to roll mountains for you. Do not be afraid to spoil him, but do not arrange such surprises too often. Men quickly get used to the good. It is likely that he will soon take your behavior for granted. Everything should be in moderation, do not forget about it.
7. Do not be afraid to punish your husband
If a man made a mistake, you can not leave him unpunished. Otherwise, this will happen again more than once. There are many ways to punish women. The most common is denial of intimacy.
It’s better not to often use this method, your husband might think: “I didn’t really want to. And the neighbor Anka has been building my eyes for a long time. ” If you are going to starve him to death, you won’t achieve anything either, except that you have to treat the stomach of your husband, who has been enjoying big macs and cheeseburgers for a week.
Everything is extremely simple: make him be guilty. A man who feels guilty will do anything for his beloved. No need to make scandals, depict sadness and sadness, you can drop a few tears. Do not get carried away, men do not tolerate sobs and tantrums.
6. Love yourself
It seems, what does this advice have to do with raising a husband? The most direct. If you treat yourself like a queen, your man will feel it.
Have you ever wondered why some women are very popular, despite the lack of outstanding external data and a high level of intelligence?
They just love themselves. The man believes that he was very lucky when such a girl pays attention to him. Do not give up your position after the wedding. Engage in your development, do not forget about the appearance, and most importantly, think more about your virtues.
5. Support
If you want your husband to reach certain heights in his career, support him. Many women dream of being successful and wealthy, but a real man will never give up the one that went with him, starting from the bottom.
Of course, there are exceptions to the rules, but young lovers quickly get bored. A man feels that he lacks the experience and wisdom of his wife. Although there are few such women.
Most wives saw their husbands for working day and night. They want him to spend more time with his family, while earning millions. This does not happen. Choose what is really important to you and guide your husband in this direction.
4. Watch your man’s appearance
This advice will confuse most young girls. Why monitor the appearance of an adult and an adequate person?
Most men are neglected in their appearance, they think, "And so it will." The time for dates has passed, there is no one to dress up. Therefore, some of them allow themselves not to shave in the morning, not to visit the hairdresser in time, to put on what came to hand (usually this is a T-shirt that he has been wearing for several days).
Maybe this is not your case. Among men, there are individuals who carefully monitor every little thing, but there are very few of them. Again, do not overdo it in creating the image of the ideal man, otherwise your handsome will attract the attention of other women.
3. Stay interesting for him
If you are not interested in your own man, you can forget about education, he will no longer succumb to training. Treat your appearance with great attention.
All women know that men love with their eyes, but few work in this direction. Most girls are sure that after the wedding you can relax.
Flirt with your own husband, flirt with him. You can give cause for jealousy, just do not get carried away. Let your beloved see what other men look at you, then he will remember that you are a woman, not just a wife and mother.
2. Take the trick into allies
Want to get something from your man, pretend to be a fox. Remember children's tales in which the animal always achieved its goals with the help of resourcefulness and cunning?
Do you want your husband to give flowers? Buy it yourself, say what the fans gave. For a long time he will not tolerate. He will say that only a loving husband has the right to give flowers to his beloved wife.
Want to make repairs on your balcony? Do not tell your husband the terrible word "repair". Tell him about the opportunity to spend evenings on the balcony, look at the night city and sit in a rocking chair. He will definitely like your idea, and he will gladly do everything he needs.
1. Do not tell him that you are raising him
If you want to celebrate a golden wedding, never tell your husband about your merits. Many women in a fit of quarrel shout: "If it weren’t for me ...". Forget this phrase and never repeat it. Let your husband think that he has achieved everything in life.
You may want gratitude and kind words, but do not risk it. Most likely, you will not hear them. A man must understand that you are very important in his life. He does not need to know everything else.