Positive change is not something that happens on its own. If you are the same person, then the article will be useless to you.
And if you are the one who understood: “Enough! I want to live better and prosper ”, the article can tell you what steps should be taken towards positive changes.
10. Do not waste time
How often do you communicate with people whom you are not happy with? Perhaps these are your colleagues or friends with whom you have long ceased to understand each other.
You need to understand for yourself which people are pulling you down, and which people think the same way you do, and communicating with which brings you joy and a surge of strength - you should stop communicating with the former, and see the latter more often.
The same applies to other areas of life - do not waste your time on something that does not lead you to development - it does not matter whether it is activity or communication.
9. Do not lie to yourself
There are different types of people - some are confident in their genius, although they are mistaken in their abilities, while others, on the contrary, know a lot and know, but are always unsure of themselves. What type of people are you?
It is important to learn to see real opportunities, your achievements, what you can and what are weak. Take a look at your current achievements (everyone has them), think about what you would like in the future, ask yourself: “Will I be able to do this?”
If not, abandon the venture, and choose a simpler goal, because the time spent back cannot be returned. The main thing is to choose a goal that you can do.
8. Do not wear a mask
We, living in society, always wear a mask. But wearing it, we only suppress our true desires, we do not change. For example, a girl meets a guy and wants to show him how feminine and economic she is (because he likes them), but some time will pass and the mask will drop - she will not be cleaned in the house, she will stop wearing dresses, preferring pants ...
Why lie initially, if the true ones are all the same, we “break out” after a while? In addition, playing a role, it is difficult, because a lot of effort is expended, and the energy is spent on maintaining your image.
7. Strive for happiness
A person can be as happy as he decides for himself. You are able to satisfy your needs and desires.
Did you see a delicious ice cream in the store? Buy it and be happy. Want new curtains from the same catalog? Order them at home. Such little things have a positive effect on us.
Never look at others or do what others do. Others can do anything - it's their business, you have your own life, your own story.
Do not be afraid of condemnation and do not live up to someone’s expectations - a person who is satisfied with his life is likely to bring more light and ideas into the world than someone who lives as he does not like, if only like everyone else.
6. Take it easy
Suppose you have a great difficulty, think what will change if you start to suffer and cry? Absolutely nothing, maybe you will become even worse than it is. But the more obstacles get in the way, the more interesting the movement.
Remember children's board games - if you played them, then you know how it is to roll a die and wait for the result in anticipation, and then move around the map without knowing where the chip will stop ...
So it is in life - take it as a board game card. Even if you go back, you can always start over. If you have a problem in your life, you don’t need to think about it for days, it’s better to try to solve it.
5. Live in the present
If you think through the details of your future, you will be disappointed. Circumstances will change many times - this is the law of life. You can’t even plan for tomorrow, because everything depends not only on you.
Suppose you imagined how you would go to a concert in a new blue dress, how you would sit on the front row and smile at your favorite musician. But it may rain outside, your dress will be in the mud, the musician may not look at you, etc.
No matter what you come up with, everything will turn out differently than in your fantasies. It is important to accept and enjoy what is, taking advantage of it.
4. Never envy
You can never be worse than anyone or better. There is always someone better and someone worse. Of course, if you have a desire for revenge - for example, some of your classmates thought you were a failure and put yourself above you, you, having matured, decided to prove that you were better than her - you become more beautiful, richer, more successful, only to prove: “You wrong, I’m better than you. " In this sense, to become “better” is possible, but is it necessary? After all, you will spend your resources on something that, perhaps, you do not need at all ...
Do not compare yourself with others, do not envy, listen to your soul, and do what you need - it does not matter how others will perceive you. And when a person confidently goes his own way - they always notice him.
3. Defeat yourself
You do not need to compare yourself with others and defeat them in something. But you need to compare yourself today with yourself yesterday - if you stand in one place (although this is impossible) - this is bad.
Almost no one stands still - you may have few external changes in your life, but internally you always develop. If this does not happen and you have stagnation, there can be different reasons for it - depression, apathy, etc.
The human soul is alive, and it is always in motion. You must become the best version of yourself, not someone else, to overcome your fears and weaknesses.
2. Do not look for the perfect
You cannot be in constant search for perfection because it is not there. You will never be able to find the ideal partner whom you drew in your imagination, the ideal home, or find a job that would suit you in all respects.
You just spend your time imagining what things and phenomena should be. But you can always do better what you have.
Did you find a dress in the store that you like, but it is not the desired length? Shorten it. Have you met an interesting person, but he is deprived of any quality, for example, pliability? Help him gain good quality - not by pressure, but by other methods.
1. Take care of your friends
You may have different partners in your life, but the most important thing is friends. People with whom you communicate, regardless of circumstances, distance and how much time has passed. Never forget about your friends - there should not be 100 real, there can be 2, but they will be faithful and reliable.
Feel free to show your feelings and tell your friends how much they mean to you and how glad you are in your life.